Are you constantly stuck in power struggles with your child? Do you find yourself yelling more than you’d like, only to feel guilty afterward? If parenting feels exhausting and you wish your child would just “listen,” you’re not alone.
But what if the real change starts not with your child—but with how you parent?
📖 Discover The Courage to Not Control by Ichiro Kishimi
This event is inspired by the powerful parenting guide 《不管教的勇气》（The Courage to Not Control）, written by 岸见一郎（Ichiro Kishimi）, the bestselling co-author of The Courage to Be Disliked. Rooted in Adlerian Psychology, the book challenges traditional parenting methods that rely on control, punishment, and authority. Instead, it offers a bold yet compassionate approach: give up control to gain cooperation.
Key Takeaways from the Book
- Stop Controlling, Start Guiding – The more you try to “fix” or “control” your child, the more resistance you’ll face. Children want to be respected and understood.
- Respect Is the Foundation of Discipline – True discipline comes from mutual respect and connection. When children feel seen and valued, they behave more responsibly.
- Encouragement Over Praise or Punishment – Kishimi emphasizes the power of encouragement—recognizing effort, progress, and the child’s intrinsic motivation.
- Parent-Child Equality (Not Hierarchy) – Parents are not “above” their children. Kishimi invites parents to see their children as equals in dignity—learning and growing together through collaboration.
🧠 Why This Book Matters for Modern Parenting
In a world full of parenting tips and quick-fix advice, The Courage to Not Control offers something deeper: a philosophical mindset shift. It’s not about the latest parenting hack—it’s about becoming the kind of parent who nurtures inner motivation, emotional safety, and independence in children.
👨👩👧👦 Join the Book Sharing Event in Singapore!
📚 The Courage to Not Control: Book Sharing & Parenting Talk
📅 Date: Saturday, 19 April 2025 (10am – 12pm)
📍 Location: National Library (100 Victoria St, Singapore 188064)
🎟 Admission: FREE – Registration required
🎁 Bonus: The first 30 participants to register will receive a free physical copy of the book!
💬 What You’ll Experience
- Real-life parenting scenarios + expert interpretation of Adlerian concepts
- Actionable tools to improve cooperation and communication at home
- Live Q&A to address your specific challenges
- Supportive community of like-minded parents
